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Goodbyes…

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Halfway home….a little bit of sun starting to show.

Yesterday was a shitty day. Because, saying goodbye… 😦

I had a weird few days, actually. Let’s start it off on Saturday. Like I mentioned in my previous post, it was my birthday on Saturday, and I would have been alone, had my sons not decided to come visit. So, the first part of the day was in expectation of their arrival.

My boys and daughter in law arrived much later than expected, but it was glorious seeing them! They brought with them some gifts and flowers, and as a lovely surprise, a beautiful birthday cake! We spent the rest of the day together, catching up, chatting, debating, eating, drinking, you know – all the things people do on birthdays when they haven’t seen each other for some time (thank you Covid! 😦 )

The cake…

But as with a lot of situations, at the back of my mind was the knowledge that these few days together had another purpose, aside from my birthday. My youngest actually came down to say goodbye to his brother and I, as he is leaving South Africa for Ireland. At the moment he is not emigrating, but he might decide to do just that while living abroad. Since it is the second of my three children leaving the country, you could maybe imagine how I’m feeling. (Even as I’m writing this, I find it difficult to breathe…) I do, how ever, wish him all the good luck in the world. I hope it is everything he imagines and more. I hope he will be happy, and successful in all his endeavours. With all my heart.

So, the whole visit was bittersweet, from start to end. We did make a few more special memories together, and we did have fun doing it, so please don’t imagine that it was only doom and gloom the whole time! 🙂 But the whole vibe changed perceptibly as the time to say goodbye drew near…

Yesterday, after saying goodbye and on my way home, the weather was atrocious – wild wind blowing, dark clouds, intermittent rain…As I got nearer to my house, there was more sun and less wind – I did somehow feel it was a metaphor for my feelings and the whole situation – things will get better, and I will get over this feeling of despondency…

Two sides to emigrating (and time still flies)

Clivias in my garden.

No, it cannot be so long since I’ve posted anything!

It is seriously irking me that I cannot sit down and do a post more regularly anymore! But, at least I had a brilliant excuse for not posting anything last week – my son is visiting from Ireland, and we (my 2 sons, their girlfriend and wife, my mom and myself) spent a few days together catching up before they had to leave to also spend time with friends and family in the north of the country. It was lovely! So, I’m not sorry about not posting last week. But I could’ve posted something somewhere within the last 2 weeks, I suppose…

The weather has turned. The birds are going absolutely ballistic, the flowers I do have in the garden has popped up, and less warm clothing is needed. Soon I’ll be melting in the heat…

My mind often goes to families broken up because of children moving away to live in other countries. I can’t help myself, since I am obviously part of such a family. I am trying my best to cope with it, and when I am very busy and I push it out of my mind I’m okay. When I’m less busy, and things get quiet around me when I’m on my own, it catches up with me. There is also the other side of this, besides the one of the people left behind.

This week a life shattering event took place. Maybe you saw it somewhere on social media – a mother took the lives of her three young daughters in New Zealand. The have very recently moved there from South Africa. She was a practicing GP here.

Now, something like this completely blows my mind – I could never, and probably won’t ever, understand how a mother can take the lives of her children. I will fiercely protect my children from any harm, I will fight to death to keep them safe, even now that they are grown ups. But that aside, she cracked for some reason, and killed her babies, right after they moved from one country to another.

Before you jump on my case – of course that doesn’t happen all the time. Of course I’m not trying to say that moving countries will cause you to start killing. What I’m trying to say, is that it is a huge step to take. I think people underestimate the stress such a move can cause. People don’t talk enough about their real feelings when they do something like this. Maybe the one partner is less into the move than the other one, but he/she keeps quiet so as not to upset the other. Maybe things happen too quickly sometimes, and the émigrés don’t have enough time to work through their feelings of loss. Because they do experience loss – big time. On both sides of this coin – the stayers and the goers.

This new trend of people upping and moving all over the world is exciting. I know, I wanted to do that too, years ago. Aside from the fact that my ex was not in the least interested in such a move, I also had my mother to consider – she would have been left here on her own, which would have caused her a lot of pain and anguish. I do think going through with this kind of move has an element of selfishness attached to it, you have to completely discount and ignore the feelings of the ones that stay behind. I know what you are going to say – everybody has the right to do with their lives what they want to. Yes, of course. It doesn’t alter the fact that when you do it, you have to tamp down the fact that it causes pain.

This was not an attack on anyone who decided to take the step to emigrate. On a certain level I envy you. This is my personal thoughts and feelings put down on ‘paper’, which was in part brought on by this very tragic event that could maybe have been prevented. If the couple talked more openly to each other. If she had more support. If they never moved…

Best Friday in a while… :D

Travel time – not for me, but my youngest is just about on his way home for a visit! Photo by Alex Azabache on Pexels.com

Summer is here. Sigh….

I am thankful for the seasons, it makes life interesting and colourful. No, really, I am! It’s just that I suffer in temperatures over 30. (degrees Celsius, that is) And around here it is very frequently close to 40. For months on end.

It is also Friday. Another thing to be thankful for. And not only because it is weekend, there is a much bigger reason I am excited about Friday this week – my youngest is leaving Ireland today for a 3 week holiday here in South Africa!! I haven’t seen him for a year, so how great is that! Next week is going to be a family week, and I’m going to do some baking this weekend, typically mom-style! Some rusks and a date loaf to take with to my eldest son’s place, where we will all be together. I’m chuffed as can be. 😀

I’ve planted some tomatoes earlier this week, now I cannot wait for it to start growing. I think I’ll also do some celery. And maybe a few carrots. And green peppers.

While waiting for the veggies to grow, I’ll try and neaten up the rest of the garden, and add a few decorating touches to make it prettier and more interesting. Typical Spring stuff. A home and a garden are never done, as far as I am concerned – there are always new ideas to try and changes to make by adding or taking away. Or am I the only one who feels that way?

Anyhoo…I wish you all a wonderful weekend! I have important things to do… 😀

About Spring and other things.

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Flowers and Spring go together like peanut butter and jam.

Aaaaand here I am again!

For now. 🙂

Since I did a post last, I’ve done all the normal life things – taken Daisy for regular walks, had significant birthday, spent time with my SO, my mom, my eldest son and my daughter-in-law, baked rusks, knitted a cocoon and a couple of newborn beanies for a special baby, had a fabulous bike ride with my SO, missed my kids overseas, and so on and so forth.

My SO has been down from the north for a couple of weeks so he could be here for my birthday. (Yay! ) He brought my mom with, and she is spending a month or so down here in the Western Cape with me.

My youngest is coming over from Ireland this coming weekend (Yay!) and we’ll be spending time together next week (my two boys with their SO’s, my mom and myself.) I am beyond excited, as it is a year, nearly to the day, that he left for greener pastures. It is going to be a good week. 😀

It seems that the world is *very slowly returning to a semblance of normality* (whispered). I am sooooooo hoping that that is the case – I’m over all the restrictions and do’s (a few) and don’ts (a lot). I will be ecstatic the day I can buy a plane ticket to fly somewhere – preferably Canada or Ireland.

Spring is also very slowly making her presence known – she peeks out, and then ducks back into her winter hiding place again, and then she braves it outside her den, and ducks back inside again. But soon, very soon, she’ll stay outside and it will be Winter who will have to go into hiding.

I know that I’ve said over and over that winter is my favourite season, and it really is – I’m sad to see it go, but there is something about early Spring days that does make a person feel happy and energized. And the budding of trees and flowers is something special – no argument there.

The one Spring thing ( 😂 ) I’m looking forward to, is planting some tomatoes again. I loved the huge amount of tomatoes I could pick last year, so I am ready to get planting again. I will also plant a few other veggies – not sure what yet. I was disappointed with the radishes, so I’ll give those a skip. Spinach is always a success, although I’m not so crazy about it that I want loads of it in my garden. I’ll have to think about it…

Hope you are all still going strong and have escaped the virus’ clutches!

Conquer, or divide?

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HELP!!!!

This has become more and more of an issue.

While I still have this platform to write and voice my humble opinions on things (I don’t know what happens at the end of this month if I don’t renew my subscription), here goes!

We, and by this I mean the WHOLE world, have been living with this little pest, also known as Covid 19, for nearly two years now. We have gone through lockdown after lockdown, we have gone through a myriad of emotions on a daily basis, we haven’t seen our families for weeks, months or in my case, years, and still the end is not in sight. I is a tough, tough situation. Hopefully nobody alive on this earth will have to ever go through something like this again – if we can ever manage to get past this global hiccup, that is. I probably won’t see anything like this again in my lifetime.

We, as the human species, were divided on – where it came from, is it real, is it really as dangerous as they say, will you or won’t you wear your face mask, sanitize your hands, your house, your life, obey lockdown rules, etc.

Then, as if that was not enough, along comes the vaccine. Yay!!! Now we can all get vaccinated and life can continue as normal! Or not…

Nope. That was not to be, because the very existence of the vaccine, managed to divide people even more! Now friends and family argue and fight and threaten each other. They stop seeing each other because some are vaccinated, some are not. The most ridiculous thing I’ve heard up to now, was that someone (opposed to the vaccine) told vaccinated family that they should not come near her, because they (the vaccinated ones!) are a danger to her! I kid you not.

This is taking on bizarre and ridiculous measures, don’t you think? If ever I was to consider the fact that there is some sinister force at work, this might be the reason – that they meant to divide and then conquer the world, when it is at its most vulnerable.

I TOTALLY blame social media for all of this.

Yip, you heard me. Social media is to blame. It has become too easy to put disinformation out there for the whole world to see. The amount of crap, combined with the efforts from real science and scientists, is enough to make anybody and everybody’s head spin. Nobody has a clue anymore as to who or what to believe. You try and sieve out the truth from the nonsense, but how? There is just too much going on. And then you get those bloody idiots who find it amusing to deliberately post stupid pieces of nonsensical gibberish, and you will always find people that latch onto that and go – you see?

I do not see a solution to this problem, and I foresee even darker times ahead – call me a doomsday prophet if you want to. But this is a huge problem, families should stick together. Friends should support each other. If you do not have those structures anymore, what is left? Chaos.

It would be interesting to hear what you think about this, how you feel, but I’m not holding my breath for a response…

PS. This is of course my opinion, and mine alone, and I reserve the right to voice my opinion (which is something of a luxury these days) – and I stand by it.

Maybe the end of the road for me?

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(On this site, that is.) Maybe, maybe not…

I don’t know exactly how these things work, but as I mentioned in a previous post, my subscription is nearing its end, and I am not going to renew it. I don’t need a .com if I cannot make some money off the ads. Sounds mercenary? Well, a person has to make a living, and since so many people are doing it off blogs, I thought I’d give it a try. But it is not working out, so I am not going to pay a lot of money (from a South African point of view, with the state of our economy and the value of our ZAR) just to have .com after my name.

I supposedly have more than 300 followers, but never more than a few likes, so either nine tenths of my followers are not on WordPress anymore, or they are no longer active. So it is like fighting a losing battle.

I do like the forum though, so I’ll probably continue peeking in from time to time.

I am very content at the moment. The area I live in is turning into the most beautiful place in the country right now. We’ve had good rain this season, and the countryside is exploding with wild flowers and greenery – it is a sight to behold! I continue to enjoy my walks with my rambunctious border collie x Daisy, and the air is fresh and clean. It is a joy to get some exercise out in the open air.

I hope you enjoy these pictures taken in the last week. (Please click on the pictures, to enjoy their full value.)