I have always been fascinated by people. I do not love people, I am a serious introvert, who gets overwhelmed by too much interaction with people, but people and their behaviour fascinate me.
One of my main questions around human behaviour and interaction is this: what is it that ‘breaks’ someone? What is it that changes their personalities and turn them into monsters? And why does it only happen to some people?
Look at serious criminals. The psychopaths. The really MEAN ones. Why are they that way? What happened to them in life that turned them into the monster they’ve become?
“They’ve been abused as a child” – I hear you say. Yes, a lot of them will say that is what happened. But there are a lot more children that were abused as children, who did not turn into psychopaths. They might also become abusers who hurt their children (which is bad enough, don’t get me wrong), and they might not. But they do not turn into people who go out, find other people and kill them horribly, get satisfaction out of the deed, and don’t stop until they are stopped by getting caught.
Or, they develop multiple personalities, so they can get away from their realities. And some of those personalities can also commit horrible crimes.
You even get children from the same family, that grew up in the same abusive situation, who turn out completely differently. The one becomes a lawyer/cop/doctor, the other becomes a psychopath.
Are some people born evil? Or are they born with a much more fragile mind than most others?
I know that there is no clear answer to this yet. Many theories maybe, but no definite answers. (This piece by Paul J Zak gives a good explanation of why people could be/become evil ) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-moral-molecule/201109/why-some-people-are-evil
But, I wonder if that will ever be really clear to us? Somehow I don’t think so…
You might ask me why I’m being so dark and serious on a Friday afternoon. I don’t know. I do know it is a question that I’ve been pondering for years, but it might be that I am asking this because of the horrific murders being committed on South African farms lately. It hurts to hear the facts of those murders, and one cannot hear them and not wonder – WHY?
Until next time!