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Being consciously happy.

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Gerbera, up close.

One reads all these clever quotes about being happy, how to be happy, and especially, making the decision every day to be happy, etc.


Will somebody, somewhere, please tell me how?

If you wake up crabby – you didn’t sleep well because of problems, you’ve got a headache, your partner snored to high heaven – how on earth do you just ‘decide’ : ‘I’m going to be happy today!’ (with a smile and a la-la-la-la-laaaaa…)

I need a step-by-step explanation, or a drawing, because this one I cannot work out on my own.

Happiness is something, like love, that many poets and song writers have written about, because that is probably the ONE thing in life that everybody on the face of this earth, wants.

A lot of people equate happiness with love. Others feel that lots of money leads to happiness. Most people have their own definition of happiness. The Oxford English Dictionary says (hold your breath) happiness – being happy. Wow – profound… So happy accord to same, is ‘feeling or showing pleasure.‘ Right.

Which does not help me one little bit. If I’m feeling out of sorts, and I do not feel like smiling and even talking to people, how do I decide to be happy? Feeling grateful is one thing – I can wake up in a bad mood and still be grateful for a new day – I will just not expect too much of it. I can be grateful for my health and food on the table, which, by the way, I always am, but still not feel happy.

Is it just me? Was I born a grouch (which I do not consider myself to be at all, I am just not always happy) or difficult to please? You can tell me, I can take it! It might not make me happy to hear negative feedback, but I can handle it… πŸ˜‰

So, if somebody out there can solve this conundrum for me, I’ll be forever grateful!

Until next time fellow bloggers, stay safe! πŸ™‚




About zelmare

Hallo to you from the southern most part of the African continent - South Africa!! To put my life in a nutshell : I raised 3 absolutely fabulous kids (I'm sure you will hear a lot about them, since I am a very proud mama), I became a doting grandmother two years ago and recently bought a house in the Western Cape, and in doing so, realized a dream I've had for many, many years. I love traveling, which I don't do often enough. I love living a simple life - cooking, gardening, knitting and of course, blogging. There is still a lot I want to do and see in my lifetime, but time will tell how much of that I can actually accomplish. I am looking forward to meeting a lot of lovely new friends and interesting people here on WordPress! :)

10 responses »

  1. Hey, we can assume it this way! Let’s not consider happiness a thing coming from the outside but let’s look at it as our own quality. I mean what if we say that Happiness is intrinsic to a soul like you and me! It is a part of our nature and not dependent on any situation or people! Initially it appears to be a stupid assumption but then with practice the mind gradually starts accepting. Why disturb the inner self because of the happenings outside?? Just a thought πŸ˜…πŸ™‚

  2. Btw on a second thought, what are your views on Meditation?!?hope you don’t mind me asking?! πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

  3. Great post πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

  4. I agree that you can choose happiness!!! If you end every day and list a coiple of good things in your day, you sleep better and appreciate your life more (and more!). If you wake up everyday and list a couple of things that make you happy/you look forward to/are thankful for, you wire your brain to rewire the negative!! It is something that I have tried for shortnperiods of time, and it really does make a difference in your mindset and overall mood!!! It is something that I wish I could do every day! But alas, it takes practice and time!! And when you miss one day, you blink and months have passed since you last did this!!


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