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Today! (Sunday quote.)

Live like there’s no tomorrow. (The Rockies , a few years ago on one of my trips there.)

“There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done – one is called yesterday, and the other is called tomorrow, so today is the right day to love, believe, do and mostly live.” ~ Dalai Lama

Live. Love. Laugh. Everyday.

Peace of mind vs Social media…

Mountains in the mist.

Peace of mind is a mental state of calmness or tranquility, a freedom from worry and anxiety.” – Dictionary.com

I have increasingly felt that peace of mind is a priority in my life. I have actually craved it for many years now. At this point in my life, I feel I’ve earned it – life owes me! 😀

But, with the state of the world at the moment – chaos, pandemic, anarchy, hate, a precarious economy – I also find it increasingly difficult to reach that state.

Probably for that very reason, I do realize that I have become a bit of a recluse, and the lockdown definitely assisted me in shutting myself away from the outside world more and more. I have been asking myself what I can do to not make me feel so anxious and stressed, besides locking myself away, and I’ve come up with a few options. Whether that will help me face the world full-on again, remains to be seen.

Less social media. I have removed Facebook from my phone, so now I can only access it when I am on my laptop. I noticed that I get angry and upset every single time I scroll through the posts, and I started writing angry replies to many of them. And I was on every few minutes!!!! So, no more on-hand Facebook for me, and it is already a huge relief. Instagram does not make me upset, so for now, I’ve decided not to remove that.

I stopped watching the news on telly about a month ago. I find the fact that ‘you have to know what’s going on in the world’ is overrated! I get the gist of it the one time I’m on FB for a few minutes every day and that is more than enough for me!

I think the amount of constant stimulation we get from social media in general, is bad for peace of mind. It is a total overload to the senses, which we are really not built to cope with.

Meditation. I’ve wanted to do that for a long time as well, and decided that now is as good a time as any to start. I’ll see where that takes me, but I thought it was worth a try. I’ll let you know how that goes! 🙂

Cutting people from my life that cause me stress. Not always easy to do, but necessary. I don’t need negative influences in my life anymore.

Eating well. Also not always easy to do. I do love cooking, but it is sometimes not worth the effort when my SO* is away. But I do try and make the effort more often than not. I’m trying out different foods, like relatively new additions to my kitchen are chickpeas (not a huge fan, but it goes well with Indian style foods) and beans, which I’ve previously only used in bean soup! I still need to up my fruit intake, and the amount of water I drink per day.

I mostly do things I enjoy. Like knitting, crocheting, blogging, walking and doing something in the kitchen. I think today I’ll bake some cookies!

So, if you are feeling stressed and out of your depth, identify the source of your discomfort, and research ways to make things easier for yourself. Only you can know what will work for you.

Until next time, stay safe and sane! 😀

*SO – significant other

Life…change and strength.

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Perfect reflections…

That which doesn’t kill one, makes one stronger.” ~ Friedrich Nietschze

This was true when I first heard it from my mother as a child, it is still true, and probably always will be true.

Cheers to strength !

A Positive Sunday.

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Birthday flowers still giving joy!

Sunday.

What a contrast this day is to last weekend! However, today I refuse to dwell on my feelings – since I am alone, it will only drag me down, which is something I don’t need right now.

So…I am going to concentrate on positives, and hope, and the light at the end of the tunnel, etc.

It is a cool, cloudy day today, which is my favourite kind of day. I’ve already taken Daisy (the border collie x that rules the roost around here) for a long walk, so : exercise – check. (I have it on good authority that walking is good for the soul – give it a try!)

I am busy making lunch which will consist of 2 lamb chops and sweet potato fries with olive oil and rosemary – baked in the oven. Cannot wait! Oh yes, with a glass of glorious red wine from our area, of course.

The rest of the day will probably be spent in front of the TV with my knitting – current project : beanies for my oldest son, since the one he is currently wearing has most definitely seen better days! Mom to the rescue!!!

I am also grateful that I had guests in my little guest house this weekend, which I consider a huge blessing after 5 months of absolutely no business. 🙂

And on top of all that, I am still enjoying the beautiful flowers I received on my birthday from my children, as well as the yummy Lindt chocolate that I started off on last night.

All my favourites in one package…YUM!

I am still healthy through all of this hullabaloo which is also known as 2020, so all in all, blog friends, a huge amount to be thankful for!!!

I am making it my mission to smile a lot more (I normally feel like an idiot when I smile for nothing), to look for the positives every single time I feel glum, and to express my gratitude for my blessings more often.

Until next time, look out for the positives, they are all around you!! 😀

Goodbyes…

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Halfway home….a little bit of sun starting to show.

Yesterday was a shitty day. Because, saying goodbye… 😦

I had a weird few days, actually. Let’s start it off on Saturday. Like I mentioned in my previous post, it was my birthday on Saturday, and I would have been alone, had my sons not decided to come visit. So, the first part of the day was in expectation of their arrival.

My boys and daughter in law arrived much later than expected, but it was glorious seeing them! They brought with them some gifts and flowers, and as a lovely surprise, a beautiful birthday cake! We spent the rest of the day together, catching up, chatting, debating, eating, drinking, you know – all the things people do on birthdays when they haven’t seen each other for some time (thank you Covid! 😦 )

The cake…

But as with a lot of situations, at the back of my mind was the knowledge that these few days together had another purpose, aside from my birthday. My youngest actually came down to say goodbye to his brother and I, as he is leaving South Africa for Ireland. At the moment he is not emigrating, but he might decide to do just that while living abroad. Since it is the second of my three children leaving the country, you could maybe imagine how I’m feeling. (Even as I’m writing this, I find it difficult to breathe…) I do, how ever, wish him all the good luck in the world. I hope it is everything he imagines and more. I hope he will be happy, and successful in all his endeavours. With all my heart.

So, the whole visit was bittersweet, from start to end. We did make a few more special memories together, and we did have fun doing it, so please don’t imagine that it was only doom and gloom the whole time! 🙂 But the whole vibe changed perceptibly as the time to say goodbye drew near…

Yesterday, after saying goodbye and on my way home, the weather was atrocious – wild wind blowing, dark clouds, intermittent rain…As I got nearer to my house, there was more sun and less wind – I did somehow feel it was a metaphor for my feelings and the whole situation – things will get better, and I will get over this feeling of despondency…