I enjoy silence.
My SO* and I are polar opposites when it comes to silence. He cannot stand a quiet house. When he gets up in the morning, the first thing he does is switch on the radio or the TV. He often has two ‘sounds’ going at the same time – the TV and the radio, or the radio and his cell phone (listening to something on social media). That, of course, drives my crazy!
One sound at a time, is more than enough. Listen to the radio, or switch it off and put the TV on. And sometimes even leave everything off. A day or two ago, I was driving in my car, and I thought that I’ll listen to the radio. As I switched it on, I realized that it was the first time in nearly a week that I switched a radio on! I had the TV on often in the evenings, but not a radio.
I used to think I’m a huge music lover. Lately I’ve realized that I am not. Whaaaaat? That is not totally true, but to my mind a music lover is someone who listens to music constantly. I used to know the bands and most of their members, their music, etc. Now I find it too much of an effort to get to some music to listen to. You have to go to Spotify or Apple tunes on your phone, (or what ever you’re using,) compile a play list, or several playlists, and then, according to your mood, listen to some music.
When should I listen to music? When I’m driving? I try that often, but there is too much talking in between! And I drive and old car – no USB or bluetooth. (I know…) While I’m walking the dog? No can do – then I can’t hear vehicles approaching, or other people, and I like to be aware of what and who is around me. While I’m trying to write a blog? I can do that, but I know that once I’m concentrating on writing, the music will not mean anything to me – I won’t even hear it, so why even bother?
Once in a while, I’ll think of a song, and then I’ll look for it on YouTube and enjoy it, maybe even play it a few times. Or I’ll listen to one song, and that will trigger some memories and I’ll end up listening to ten songs, but that happens rarely.
Silence forces you to be okay with yourself. It is introspective. It is so stress free, as opposed to trying to sort out radio’s and TV’s all going at the same time! Listening to the radio all the time, also forces you to be constantly processing what you hear, and then having to make decisions about that knowledge. I’m not saying become a vegetable – of course you should at least be aware of what is going on in the world, but NOT ALL THE TIME! You are allowed to switch off from the bombardment of information.
Silence is in fact full of sounds – when you have everything off, you can hear the wind in the trees (which I am actually listening to right now), you can hear the rain on the roof, or the birds outside your window. Silence can be healing – if you allow yourself to listen to natural sounds all around you, and you breathe deeply, and consciously relax your shoulders, just let your mind drift away… You will feel better afterwards, I promise you.
Practice being in silence, for only a short while at first, if it scares you or freaks you out. You will start relaxing and enjoying it. ‘Struth!