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Two sides to emigrating (and time still flies)

Clivias in my garden.

No, it cannot be so long since I’ve posted anything!

It is seriously irking me that I cannot sit down and do a post more regularly anymore! But, at least I had a brilliant excuse for not posting anything last week – my son is visiting from Ireland, and we (my 2 sons, their girlfriend and wife, my mom and myself) spent a few days together catching up before they had to leave to also spend time with friends and family in the north of the country. It was lovely! So, I’m not sorry about not posting last week. But I could’ve posted something somewhere within the last 2 weeks, I suppose…

The weather has turned. The birds are going absolutely ballistic, the flowers I do have in the garden has popped up, and less warm clothing is needed. Soon I’ll be melting in the heat…

My mind often goes to families broken up because of children moving away to live in other countries. I can’t help myself, since I am obviously part of such a family. I am trying my best to cope with it, and when I am very busy and I push it out of my mind I’m okay. When I’m less busy, and things get quiet around me when I’m on my own, it catches up with me. There is also the other side of this, besides the one of the people left behind.

This week a life shattering event took place. Maybe you saw it somewhere on social media – a mother took the lives of her three young daughters in New Zealand. The have very recently moved there from South Africa. She was a practicing GP here.

Now, something like this completely blows my mind – I could never, and probably won’t ever, understand how a mother can take the lives of her children. I will fiercely protect my children from any harm, I will fight to death to keep them safe, even now that they are grown ups. But that aside, she cracked for some reason, and killed her babies, right after they moved from one country to another.

Before you jump on my case – of course that doesn’t happen all the time. Of course I’m not trying to say that moving countries will cause you to start killing. What I’m trying to say, is that it is a huge step to take. I think people underestimate the stress such a move can cause. People don’t talk enough about their real feelings when they do something like this. Maybe the one partner is less into the move than the other one, but he/she keeps quiet so as not to upset the other. Maybe things happen too quickly sometimes, and the émigrés don’t have enough time to work through their feelings of loss. Because they do experience loss – big time. On both sides of this coin – the stayers and the goers.

This new trend of people upping and moving all over the world is exciting. I know, I wanted to do that too, years ago. Aside from the fact that my ex was not in the least interested in such a move, I also had my mother to consider – she would have been left here on her own, which would have caused her a lot of pain and anguish. I do think going through with this kind of move has an element of selfishness attached to it, you have to completely discount and ignore the feelings of the ones that stay behind. I know what you are going to say – everybody has the right to do with their lives what they want to. Yes, of course. It doesn’t alter the fact that when you do it, you have to tamp down the fact that it causes pain.

This was not an attack on anyone who decided to take the step to emigrate. On a certain level I envy you. This is my personal thoughts and feelings put down on ‘paper’, which was in part brought on by this very tragic event that could maybe have been prevented. If the couple talked more openly to each other. If she had more support. If they never moved…

Best Friday in a while… :D

Travel time – not for me, but my youngest is just about on his way home for a visit! Photo by Alex Azabache on Pexels.com

Summer is here. Sigh….

I am thankful for the seasons, it makes life interesting and colourful. No, really, I am! It’s just that I suffer in temperatures over 30. (degrees Celsius, that is) And around here it is very frequently close to 40. For months on end.

It is also Friday. Another thing to be thankful for. And not only because it is weekend, there is a much bigger reason I am excited about Friday this week – my youngest is leaving Ireland today for a 3 week holiday here in South Africa!! I haven’t seen him for a year, so how great is that! Next week is going to be a family week, and I’m going to do some baking this weekend, typically mom-style! Some rusks and a date loaf to take with to my eldest son’s place, where we will all be together. I’m chuffed as can be. 😀

I’ve planted some tomatoes earlier this week, now I cannot wait for it to start growing. I think I’ll also do some celery. And maybe a few carrots. And green peppers.

While waiting for the veggies to grow, I’ll try and neaten up the rest of the garden, and add a few decorating touches to make it prettier and more interesting. Typical Spring stuff. A home and a garden are never done, as far as I am concerned – there are always new ideas to try and changes to make by adding or taking away. Or am I the only one who feels that way?

Anyhoo…I wish you all a wonderful weekend! I have important things to do… 😀

About Spring and other things.

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Flowers and Spring go together like peanut butter and jam.

Aaaaand here I am again!

For now. 🙂

Since I did a post last, I’ve done all the normal life things – taken Daisy for regular walks, had significant birthday, spent time with my SO, my mom, my eldest son and my daughter-in-law, baked rusks, knitted a cocoon and a couple of newborn beanies for a special baby, had a fabulous bike ride with my SO, missed my kids overseas, and so on and so forth.

My SO has been down from the north for a couple of weeks so he could be here for my birthday. (Yay! ) He brought my mom with, and she is spending a month or so down here in the Western Cape with me.

My youngest is coming over from Ireland this coming weekend (Yay!) and we’ll be spending time together next week (my two boys with their SO’s, my mom and myself.) I am beyond excited, as it is a year, nearly to the day, that he left for greener pastures. It is going to be a good week. 😀

It seems that the world is *very slowly returning to a semblance of normality* (whispered). I am sooooooo hoping that that is the case – I’m over all the restrictions and do’s (a few) and don’ts (a lot). I will be ecstatic the day I can buy a plane ticket to fly somewhere – preferably Canada or Ireland.

Spring is also very slowly making her presence known – she peeks out, and then ducks back into her winter hiding place again, and then she braves it outside her den, and ducks back inside again. But soon, very soon, she’ll stay outside and it will be Winter who will have to go into hiding.

I know that I’ve said over and over that winter is my favourite season, and it really is – I’m sad to see it go, but there is something about early Spring days that does make a person feel happy and energized. And the budding of trees and flowers is something special – no argument there.

The one Spring thing ( 😂 ) I’m looking forward to, is planting some tomatoes again. I loved the huge amount of tomatoes I could pick last year, so I am ready to get planting again. I will also plant a few other veggies – not sure what yet. I was disappointed with the radishes, so I’ll give those a skip. Spinach is always a success, although I’m not so crazy about it that I want loads of it in my garden. I’ll have to think about it…

Hope you are all still going strong and have escaped the virus’ clutches!