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i have friends that have come a long way with me in my life, so they will probably feature in my blogs.

Emotionally yours.

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Aaaaaaarrrrgh….

Today sucks big time.

I know, I know…yesterday I was all ‘tonight’s gonna be a good night’, and now suddenly I’m all ‘woe is me’!

I’m sorry, but I’ve got stuff to get out of my system today. Yesterday one of my best friends told me they are leaving the country at the end of April. A few hours ago I get a call from another best friend, telling me she is at the airport, on her way to the UK, permanently. (She is in the air as we speak.) I knew they were planning the move, but this caught me off guard – they had to move up their plans because of – you guessed it – Covid! I am really starting to HATE that word and the whole global situation caused by it.

My SO* is on the other side of the country, which is maybe a good thing for him, because who would want to be with me today?? Not me, that’s for sure!

On top of that, I am missing my children. Not just missing them – I am MISSING them, and I am upset because they are so far away and I cannot see them or hug them or have coffee with them. I cannot hug my granddaughter or read to her. I’m pissed off, to put it simply.

I know, I can hear you – ‘oh boohoohoo, get over it!’ ‘Do you think you’re the only one in that situation?’ ‘And whining is going to change what?’ Etc.

I. KNOW. I’m not stupid (not totally, anyway). But this situation is real to me, and it bugs me.

Okay, I’m done. I don’t feel better yet, but I’m done.

Have a good weekend y’all!!!

Limbo.

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Esther Lui for NPR.

To me, this period between Christmas and New Year is like being in limbo.

Definition of in limbo, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary ~ 1in a forgotten or ignored place, state, or situation. 2: in an uncertain or undecided state or condition.

The one big celebration (Christmas) is over and done with, the next one is around the corner. In between nothing much happens, except to wait uncomfortably and/or impatiently for the next party to start.

In South Africa, we have our long summer holiday over December. Normally from around the first week in December, for more or less five weeks. Most people go away to the seaside for a big part of those 5 weeks, others have to stay home because they work harder than ever over the holiday season.

Whether you work or go away, some kind of get-together is normally planned to ring in the NEW YEAR! Yaaaay…

South Africans like to party and spend time with friends, and a ‘braai’ is mostly the way to do that over the December holidays, and most especially on New Year’s eve. I still have to do a post on a ‘braai’ for you, so you can fully understand the concept. In short, it involves the cooking of meat over an open fire, but it is so, so much more.

This picture gives you some idea of what ‘braai’ means… 😉

We (as in my SO* and myself), like most people, like to spend some time with friends, but somehow we end up being home on New Year’s, and in bed before midnight. I think we have decided some time ago, that time passes inexorably, one year comes and then goes, and the next one is there to take its place. Nothing much there to celebrate.

This (nearly) past year, was not deemed to be particularly kind to us, so we will not be sorry to see it go, but at the same time we have no idea what the new year has in stall for us, so we are not specifically excited to welcome it into our lives. Let’s wait and see…

So, I am quite positive that we will spend this New Year’s eve at home, in front of the TV, with no regrets – not that this year is finally over, or that we are not out celebrating.

Are you planning a party or celebration of some kind? If so, please put your safety and that of your family first.

*SO – significant other.