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Limbo.

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Esther Lui for NPR.

To me, this period between Christmas and New Year is like being in limbo.

Definition of in limbo, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary ~ 1in a forgotten or ignored place, state, or situation. 2: in an uncertain or undecided state or condition.

The one big celebration (Christmas) is over and done with, the next one is around the corner. In between nothing much happens, except to wait uncomfortably and/or impatiently for the next party to start.

In South Africa, we have our long summer holiday over December. Normally from around the first week in December, for more or less five weeks. Most people go away to the seaside for a big part of those 5 weeks, others have to stay home because they work harder than ever over the holiday season.

Whether you work or go away, some kind of get-together is normally planned to ring in the NEW YEAR! Yaaaay…

South Africans like to party and spend time with friends, and a ‘braai’ is mostly the way to do that over the December holidays, and most especially on New Year’s eve. I still have to do a post on a ‘braai’ for you, so you can fully understand the concept. In short, it involves the cooking of meat over an open fire, but it is so, so much more.

This picture gives you some idea of what ‘braai’ means… 😉

We (as in my SO* and myself), like most people, like to spend some time with friends, but somehow we end up being home on New Year’s, and in bed before midnight. I think we have decided some time ago, that time passes inexorably, one year comes and then goes, and the next one is there to take its place. Nothing much there to celebrate.

This (nearly) past year, was not deemed to be particularly kind to us, so we will not be sorry to see it go, but at the same time we have no idea what the new year has in stall for us, so we are not specifically excited to welcome it into our lives. Let’s wait and see…

So, I am quite positive that we will spend this New Year’s eve at home, in front of the TV, with no regrets – not that this year is finally over, or that we are not out celebrating.

Are you planning a party or celebration of some kind? If so, please put your safety and that of your family first.

*SO – significant other.

No Thanksgiving for us…

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Thanksgiving is one of the holidays in the year that I actually feel has merit.

Ironic, because in South Africa we do not have Thanksgiving – in fact, I think most of the people here won’t even know what it is, might not even have heard of it. I know, right?!

So why should I think that it is an important holiday? To start off with, compared to the fluff and money-making marketing of Valentine’s day (sorry/not sorry to all the lovers out there), and even Mother’s day and Father’s day, Thanksgiving has heart, and soul, and meaning, and we are not thankful enough in our daily lives. (Yes, mothers and fathers and lovers are important people, but shouldn’t you honour and love them every day of the year? Shouldn’t you show them throughout the year what they mean to you? To do so to the nth degree one day a year really is quite meaningless and shallow.)

I think we take too many things for granted. A roof over our heads, food on the table, health, family, holidays, etc. Only when we lose those things, do we suddenly realize how privileged and blessed we were.

Even though there is some controversy regarding the day, I think it is a wonderful idea to have a day of Thanksgiving once a year, to ‘force’ people to be thankful at least one day a year. (I’ve done a bit of research, and found that although the pilgrims had much to be thankful for, to the Native Americans or Indigenous People (whatever the politically correct term is nowadays), it was quite the opposite!)

Also picked up in my ‘intensive research’ 😉 , is the interesting fact that one of the very few countries other than USA that celebrate Thanksgiving, Liberia, does so because it was brought over from America when freed slaves were settled there. (Liberia = Free Country.) They celebrate on the 1st of November.

But back to being thankful. I would have loved to have Thanksgiving ! This year I would be thankful for –

  • my health throughout the whole pandemic saga
  • my life, after an altercation with a truck at the end of May!
  • definitely very thankful that all my loved ones have so far escaped the virus too.
  • food on the table despite the fact that we’ve had serious financial setbacks because of the darn pandemic!
  • abundant rain, after we’ve had many years of drought in the area (there are still places in SA that are suffering seriously because they have not had rain for so long that their livestock is dying and they don’t have any money anymore to buy food for them. 😦 )
  • whatsapp video calls, because without them I don’t know how I would have survived two of my children living abroad
  • people in my life that I love, and I know they love me too

Maybe I’ll start my own Thanksgiving tradition here in South Africa, who knows? 😀