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Stirring the pot…

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I find the world, as it is at the moment, to be a very spineless place.

On the surface, at least… A place where people are too scared to voice their opinions for fear of being attacked by people who differ from them. A place where everybody is brain washed into feeling exactly the same (or pretend that they are), because it’s the ‘right’ thing to do. It does more or less divide the world into two – ‘them’ and ‘us’, but the one half doesn’t dare say what they think and feel out loud – the silent half.

I refuse to believe that the majority of people on this earth feel the same. So obviously a big part of earth’s population doesn’t come right out and say what they believe in. And if they do, they are called names… I would love to hear someone’s opinion of how all that came about. I believe the press/media had a huge role in that, but the mechanics of how this subtle subjugation was implemented, is beyond me.

I figured some of that out by reactions to my blogs. The moment I write something just remotely controversial, and I mean remotely, my ‘likes’ drop like dead flies. (Not that I have thousands, even hundreds, of likes, but with small numbers it is even more obvious.) It is as if people go – ‘can’t touch that’. ‘Cannot be seen to like this.’ ‘Cannot comment on that.’ ‘Too dangerous, not even acknowledging that I saw that. ‘Let’s pretend I never saw that.’

I find it sad. I, for one, will never attack someone, verbally or otherwise, for disagreeing with me. I might argue with you, but I won’t get nasty. I respect people’s individuality, and their right to their own opinions and feelings, like I mentioned in my previous post. Also –

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

I have often experienced the above quote – it is important to really, really listen to what people say – one often assumes that you know what they think and feel. You don’t. Listen – you might be surprised at how much of what others think, is in agreement with what you think.

Anyone out there up for a dare? I dare you to reply to this. Give me an idea of why you think this is happening at the moment. Or do you even think it is happening? Maybe you think it is my imagination and I’m just stirring now? I promise, I am not an undercover anything.

Too heavy for a Thursday? Or any day? Mmmm… 😉

No Thanksgiving for us…

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Thanksgiving is one of the holidays in the year that I actually feel has merit.

Ironic, because in South Africa we do not have Thanksgiving – in fact, I think most of the people here won’t even know what it is, might not even have heard of it. I know, right?!

So why should I think that it is an important holiday? To start off with, compared to the fluff and money-making marketing of Valentine’s day (sorry/not sorry to all the lovers out there), and even Mother’s day and Father’s day, Thanksgiving has heart, and soul, and meaning, and we are not thankful enough in our daily lives. (Yes, mothers and fathers and lovers are important people, but shouldn’t you honour and love them every day of the year? Shouldn’t you show them throughout the year what they mean to you? To do so to the nth degree one day a year really is quite meaningless and shallow.)

I think we take too many things for granted. A roof over our heads, food on the table, health, family, holidays, etc. Only when we lose those things, do we suddenly realize how privileged and blessed we were.

Even though there is some controversy regarding the day, I think it is a wonderful idea to have a day of Thanksgiving once a year, to ‘force’ people to be thankful at least one day a year. (I’ve done a bit of research, and found that although the pilgrims had much to be thankful for, to the Native Americans or Indigenous People (whatever the politically correct term is nowadays), it was quite the opposite!)

Also picked up in my ‘intensive research’ 😉 , is the interesting fact that one of the very few countries other than USA that celebrate Thanksgiving, Liberia, does so because it was brought over from America when freed slaves were settled there. (Liberia = Free Country.) They celebrate on the 1st of November.

But back to being thankful. I would have loved to have Thanksgiving ! This year I would be thankful for –

  • my health throughout the whole pandemic saga
  • my life, after an altercation with a truck at the end of May!
  • definitely very thankful that all my loved ones have so far escaped the virus too.
  • food on the table despite the fact that we’ve had serious financial setbacks because of the darn pandemic!
  • abundant rain, after we’ve had many years of drought in the area (there are still places in SA that are suffering seriously because they have not had rain for so long that their livestock is dying and they don’t have any money anymore to buy food for them. 😦 )
  • whatsapp video calls, because without them I don’t know how I would have survived two of my children living abroad
  • people in my life that I love, and I know they love me too

Maybe I’ll start my own Thanksgiving tradition here in South Africa, who knows? 😀