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Aaaaaaarrrrgh….

Today sucks big time.

I know, I know…yesterday I was all ‘tonight’s gonna be a good night’, and now suddenly I’m all ‘woe is me’!

I’m sorry, but I’ve got stuff to get out of my system today. Yesterday one of my best friends told me they are leaving the country at the end of April. A few hours ago I get a call from another best friend, telling me she is at the airport, on her way to the UK, permanently. (She is in the air as we speak.) I knew they were planning the move, but this caught me off guard – they had to move up their plans because of – you guessed it – Covid! I am really starting to HATE that word and the whole global situation caused by it.

My SO* is on the other side of the country, which is maybe a good thing for him, because who would want to be with me today?? Not me, that’s for sure!

On top of that, I am missing my children. Not just missing them – I am MISSING them, and I am upset because they are so far away and I cannot see them or hug them or have coffee with them. I cannot hug my granddaughter or read to her. I’m pissed off, to put it simply.

I know, I can hear you – ‘oh boohoohoo, get over it!’ ‘Do you think you’re the only one in that situation?’ ‘And whining is going to change what?’ Etc.

I. KNOW. I’m not stupid (not totally, anyway). But this situation is real to me, and it bugs me.

Okay, I’m done. I don’t feel better yet, but I’m done.

Have a good weekend y’all!!!

About life and lying.

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Sweet little flower of a creeper, creeping all over a dead pile of wood.

The other day I wrote a bit about HOPE, and the importance of hope in one’s life.

There are a few more things (‘things’ doesn’t quite seem like the right word here…) that are very important to me in my life, and I can only hope ( 😉 ), in other people’s lives as well.

TRUTH, for instance. It is very easy to say ‘I always speak the truth.’ Do you? Think about it. Do you always speak the truth? If a friend asks you what you think of her new dress, do you give an honest answer, or do you say what you think she wants to hear, and justify it with ‘it was only a white lie’? If your spouse, who loves cooking, asks you what you think of a new dish he/she has prepared, do you give an honest answer? It has become way too easy to slip into telling a lie, and make an excuse about it, or worse, not to even think about further!

Now, there is also telling lies without speaking. Your actions can be lies. Ever thought about that? For instance – you may be associating with someone that makes you uncomfortable. Maybe they are atheist/Muslim/Christian/gay/wrong political party, and you are uncomfortable because you were raised differently, but you see them anyway because ‘everybody does it’ – it is politically correct. NOT because you really want to be friends with them. That is lying by actions.

Or you are having an affair. And then you go home and pretend everything is fine, and you still love your husband. Lying with your actions.

There are lots and lots of examples of both telling lies and lying with your actions, but I’m sure you get where I’m going with this.

There is no reason to lie. It is always, always better to tell the truth. It might make things uncomfortable for you, because your husband might leave you, or your ‘friends’ might find out what your true feelings are, and distance themselves from you. But if you were truthful from the start, a lot of discomfort and hurt could have been avoided.

If everybody lived the truth, what an amazing world this would be!

Until next time, blog friends! 🙂