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About life and lying.

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Sweet little flower of a creeper, creeping all over a dead pile of wood.

The other day I wrote a bit about HOPE, and the importance of hope in one’s life.

There are a few more things (‘things’ doesn’t quite seem like the right word here…) that are very important to me in my life, and I can only hope ( 😉 ), in other people’s lives as well.

TRUTH, for instance. It is very easy to say ‘I always speak the truth.’ Do you? Think about it. Do you always speak the truth? If a friend asks you what you think of her new dress, do you give an honest answer, or do you say what you think she wants to hear, and justify it with ‘it was only a white lie’? If your spouse, who loves cooking, asks you what you think of a new dish he/she has prepared, do you give an honest answer? It has become way too easy to slip into telling a lie, and make an excuse about it, or worse, not to even think about further!

Now, there is also telling lies without speaking. Your actions can be lies. Ever thought about that? For instance – you may be associating with someone that makes you uncomfortable. Maybe they are atheist/Muslim/Christian/gay/wrong political party, and you are uncomfortable because you were raised differently, but you see them anyway because ‘everybody does it’ – it is politically correct. NOT because you really want to be friends with them. That is lying by actions.

Or you are having an affair. And then you go home and pretend everything is fine, and you still love your husband. Lying with your actions.

There are lots and lots of examples of both telling lies and lying with your actions, but I’m sure you get where I’m going with this.

There is no reason to lie. It is always, always better to tell the truth. It might make things uncomfortable for you, because your husband might leave you, or your ‘friends’ might find out what your true feelings are, and distance themselves from you. But if you were truthful from the start, a lot of discomfort and hurt could have been avoided.

If everybody lived the truth, what an amazing world this would be!

Until next time, blog friends! 🙂

Introspection – Things I learnt about myself during lockdown…

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A part of ‘The Twelve Apostles’ (mountain range behind table Mountain) sticking through the clouds on our drive round Chapman’s Peak two weekends ago.

I’ve learnt a few things about myself during this lockdown period. (One would think I know myself by now, given my age… )

* I need to get a life.

My life hardly changed during this time, isn’t that sad? I always knew I was an introvert that doesn’t like people too much, but I never realized that I’m basically a hermit. I miss my children something fierce, but two of them live too far away to see regularly anyway. I have a few friends that I do feel it is time to see again, except I can’t, what with South Africa’s ridiculous rules around lockdown. I go grocery shopping when I need to, and other than that I am quite content to be home and do my own thing. Maybe I need to get another hobby, one I actually have to leave the house to do… (Oh, I do miss eating out now and then!)

*I am a lot more aggressive than I ever thought

Oops… I even consider closing my FB account, because I can get SO riled up by some of the things I read there! I really try and stay away from the news, because MAN, do I get angry!!! Especially with things happening in our country, that makes absolutely NO sense whatever! I do believe that one has to have an idea of what’s going on in the world, but maybe I should just float along in my own little bubble – best for me, and better for the world around me! (Could I maybe put this down to the frustration and uncertainty of Covid-19 and lockdown?)

*I am a lot lazier than I always thought…

Another oops… Not something I am proud of, I can promise you! I love a clean house, but I do not like doing all the cleaning, all the time. We are spoiled in SA, we have people that come in and clean our houses, should we want that (most people do), and I used to have someone come in once a week to clean, and iron. With lockdown, of course, some of that has changed, so we have to do everything ourselves. And sad to say, I really have to give myself a serious talking to, before I get off my backside to do some cleaning. (I would much rather sit and knit, crochet, or lately, blog.)

*I can get by with a lot less than I thought.

At last a positive!! I know now that we can live on a lot less money than I previously thought. That is mainly because I realized that we need a lot less food than we always have in the house. During this time, we tried to go out as little as possible, so we would try and stretch whatever we had in the house to last another day or two, make plans for meals with what we had around. Which brings me to the last point:

*I am a lot more resourceful than I ever gave myself credit for!

Yay, another positive! Because of the previous point, I managed to make a lot of tasty meals with very little.

I refuse to say that I am glad Covid-19 happened to come along in my lifetime, but it did make me sit back and take stock, it made me think about a few touchy subjects, and it taught me a few things, which is all in all probably not a bad thing.

 

Until next time, blogfriends! 🙂