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Unpredictable…

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Life is unpredictable, to say the least.

“Life is what happens while we’re making other plans.” ~ John Lennon.

True, that.

As a youngster I used to believe you should plan things. What and where you are going to study after school. What are you going to do when you finish your studies, and where. Plan, plan, plan.

That way, I thought, nothing can happen to surprise you. How could I have been so naive? So stupid? Of course we all know that life is not like that. At all. For some even less so than for others.

I’ve know people who’s lives came close to that predictability. The couples both had jobs, which they neither loved or hated, but it brought in two fairly good salaries. They had their children, one car, then later two, they planned yearly holidays away. Safe, secure. Except of course for retrenchments, affairs, medical emergencies, or deaths in the family, which is something that always causes turmoil in a peaceful existence.

My life had never been like that. It had always been prone to changes, sometimes literally from one day to the next. Financial stability was never a thing. Changes happened often. Sometimes it was difficult to adjust, other times a little less so. ‘Adapt or die’ certainly rang true in my life.

On a positive note, I can say that life was never boring. How could it be?

I also thought that by the time I hit that ‘certain age’ I spoke about yesterday, my life would be settled, calm and serene. It should be, don’t you think? The turmoil of raising kids is over, my working days coming to an end (?) and peace should set in.

But NO, not so. Things seem to be carrying on the way it has always been. Unpredictable. Changeable.

I’m trying to find that pocket of calm for myself to escape to, where I can breathe deeply and feel peace. Some days I find it, some days not.

I wonder if it is something I’m doing, or not doing… Maybe I should see my life as predictable in its unpredictability?

(One thing I do know for a fact – Covid bloody 19 has come and upset the apple cart properly, and not only for me. I think a gazillion people’s lives have been knocked sideways since the beginning of last year. I think those who thought they had predictable, planned lives, think differently now… )

Peace of mind vs Social media…

Mountains in the mist.

Peace of mind is a mental state of calmness or tranquility, a freedom from worry and anxiety.” – Dictionary.com

I have increasingly felt that peace of mind is a priority in my life. I have actually craved it for many years now. At this point in my life, I feel I’ve earned it – life owes me! 😀

But, with the state of the world at the moment – chaos, pandemic, anarchy, hate, a precarious economy – I also find it increasingly difficult to reach that state.

Probably for that very reason, I do realize that I have become a bit of a recluse, and the lockdown definitely assisted me in shutting myself away from the outside world more and more. I have been asking myself what I can do to not make me feel so anxious and stressed, besides locking myself away, and I’ve come up with a few options. Whether that will help me face the world full-on again, remains to be seen.

Less social media. I have removed Facebook from my phone, so now I can only access it when I am on my laptop. I noticed that I get angry and upset every single time I scroll through the posts, and I started writing angry replies to many of them. And I was on every few minutes!!!! So, no more on-hand Facebook for me, and it is already a huge relief. Instagram does not make me upset, so for now, I’ve decided not to remove that.

I stopped watching the news on telly about a month ago. I find the fact that ‘you have to know what’s going on in the world’ is overrated! I get the gist of it the one time I’m on FB for a few minutes every day and that is more than enough for me!

I think the amount of constant stimulation we get from social media in general, is bad for peace of mind. It is a total overload to the senses, which we are really not built to cope with.

Meditation. I’ve wanted to do that for a long time as well, and decided that now is as good a time as any to start. I’ll see where that takes me, but I thought it was worth a try. I’ll let you know how that goes! 🙂

Cutting people from my life that cause me stress. Not always easy to do, but necessary. I don’t need negative influences in my life anymore.

Eating well. Also not always easy to do. I do love cooking, but it is sometimes not worth the effort when my SO* is away. But I do try and make the effort more often than not. I’m trying out different foods, like relatively new additions to my kitchen are chickpeas (not a huge fan, but it goes well with Indian style foods) and beans, which I’ve previously only used in bean soup! I still need to up my fruit intake, and the amount of water I drink per day.

I mostly do things I enjoy. Like knitting, crocheting, blogging, walking and doing something in the kitchen. I think today I’ll bake some cookies!

So, if you are feeling stressed and out of your depth, identify the source of your discomfort, and research ways to make things easier for yourself. Only you can know what will work for you.

Until next time, stay safe and sane! 😀

*SO – significant other