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How do you know when to stop?

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I’ve got a conundrum for you to help me solve. Please.

If you have a situation that isn’t working for you – a job, a relationship, a hobby – anything that you’ve been doing for a while, maybe even years, but it just does not deliver the way you thought it would (or at all), when do you you stop trying? Where do you draw the line?

There are a million clever little quotes about not giving up, and how every failure is a test of your character, how hard work pays off, how success is just around the corner, etc. But surely somewhere along the line you can decide that you’ve rammed your head up against that same wall for long enough, and it is time to bow out gracefully? There should be no shame in that. I think sometimes to enable yourself to move forward or onward, you have to quit doing what you are doing? Also, the more you do something that isn’t working, how do you keep up your enthusiasm for it?

I am writing this with my own job situation in mind, but as I write, a few others’ scenarios come to mind. I know I’m not the only one in this situation, but I also know everybody handles these things differently. I can’t think that you keep doggedly on and on, believing that by never giving up, you’ll eventually reach the success you want. What if you don’t? What if you keep on for years, always living with the stress of things not going according to plan, not working out? I know we often carry on past the expiry date, for different reasons – what people will think, peer pressure, pressure or disapproval from friends and family, social standing, finances.

In the meantime, you could have tried something else, and that could’ve been a huge success. Maybe.

In certain situations it becomes very clear that the time has arrived to draw the line, and you often don’t even think in terms of failure, only to move on. But other times things are a bit murky, and complicated…

I don’t know. It seems to me to be one of those situations where you are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t…

On a slightly more positive note: Roomys The Cat is doing okay. Not great, but not too bad either. He is eating a bit, but he hardly moves (which is probably best). So I am watching him like a hawk, and hopefully he’ll continue to do better every day. (If you are new here, and are wondering what this update is all about, please see previous 3 posts.)

Roomys in his little lair….

Stinky Sunday.

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I took Roomys out for some sun today.

My poor cat came home from the vet today.

He is not a happy camper, and neither am I. He hurts, and he cries. He battles to walk, and when he does, it is all wonky – his back half looks like it’s got a life all of its own. I love him to bits, but I’m not sure at this point if it won’t be more humane to put him down. (Which I probably won’t be able to do anyway…)

He was most probably hit by a car on Thursday morning (see previous 2 posts), and although it is not clear from the X-rays, there is a very good chance that he has a broken pelvis. The vet reckons as long as the pelvis doesn’t go out of shape, and I can keep him as quiet as possible (how does one do that with a cat?), there is a good chance that he might heal.

What bothers me is that in the meantime, he cannot be a cat, he can hardly move because he hurts, and nobody knows how long it will take for him to heal, if he heals.

I hate seeing him like this… 😦

Is there anybody out there who went through something similar with a pet? Did the fracture eventually heal, and how long did it take? I would love to think that he’ll soon be his old self, but I wonder, even if he heals, if he’ll ever be the same. Probably not.

Oi, it breaks my heart, poor fellow.