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The Power of Silence, Part 2.

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Not quite an extension of my previous blog, more of a different angle.

I have learnt through my life, that silence can sometimes be an answer.

It’s a fact.

You don’t always have to get the last word in, although there is some satisfaction to that. Every once in a while, if you don’t agree with someone, or if answering is going to cause an argument, just keep your mouth shut. Easy.

For instance: “Sweetie, I’ve been thinking… I think my mother must come and live with us.”

Silence.

Or: “I’ve been thinking… Don’t you think we need to get a new car Angel?”

Silence.

See, easy!! It’s a bit like ‘do what you want’, or ‘whatever’, only better.

Also, you don’t have to ‘win’ every argument – winning an argument is sometimes actually losing an argument. So, if you think about it, sometimes by avoiding an argument, you win. Does that make any sense to you?

But anyway, I have learnt there is power in silence, and it is wise to use it every now and then.

Try it sometime. πŸ˜‰

oh yes…

The Power of Silence.

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I enjoy silence.

My SO* and I are polar opposites when it comes to silence. He cannot stand a quiet house. When he gets up in the morning, the first thing he does is switch on the radio or the TV. He often has two ‘sounds’ going at the same time – the TV and the radio, or the radio and his cell phone (listening to something on social media). That, of course, drives my crazy!

One sound at a time, is more than enough. Listen to the radio, or switch it off and put the TV on. And sometimes even leave everything off. A day or two ago, I was driving in my car, and I thought that I’ll listen to the radio. As I switched it on, I realized that it was the first time in nearly a week that I switched a radio on! I had the TV on often in the evenings, but not a radio.

I used to think I’m a huge music lover. Lately I’ve realized that I am not. Whaaaaat? That is not totally true, but to my mind a music lover is someone who listens to music constantly. I used to know the bands and most of their members, their music, etc. Now I find it too much of an effort to get to some music to listen to. You have to go to Spotify or Apple tunes on your phone, (or what ever you’re using,) compile a play list, or several playlists, and then, according to your mood, listen to some music.

When should I listen to music? When I’m driving? I try that often, but there is too much talking in between! And I drive and old car – no USB or bluetooth. (I know…) While I’m walking the dog? No can do – then I can’t hear vehicles approaching, or other people, and I like to be aware of what and who is around me. While I’m trying to write a blog? I can do that, but I know that once I’m concentrating on writing, the music will not mean anything to me – I won’t even hear it, so why even bother?

Once in a while, I’ll think of a song, and then I’ll look for it on YouTube and enjoy it, maybe even play it a few times. Or I’ll listen to one song, and that will trigger some memories and I’ll end up listening to ten songs, but that happens rarely.

Silence forces you to be okay with yourself. It is introspective. It is so stress free, as opposed to trying to sort out radio’s and TV’s all going at the same time! Listening to the radio all the time, also forces you to be constantly processing what you hear, and then having to make decisions about that knowledge. I’m not saying become a vegetable – of course you should at least be aware of what is going on in the world, but NOT ALL THE TIME! You are allowed to switch off from the bombardment of information.

Silence is in fact full of sounds – when you have everything off, you can hear the wind in the trees (which I am actually listening to right now), you can hear the rain on the roof, or the birds outside your window. Silence can be healing – if you allow yourself to listen to natural sounds all around you, and you breathe deeply, and consciously relax your shoulders, just let your mind drift away… You will feel better afterwards, I promise you.

Practice being in silence, for only a short while at first, if it scares you or freaks you out. You will start relaxing and enjoying it. ‘Struth!

Stirring the pot…

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I find the world, as it is at the moment, to be a very spineless place.

On the surface, at least… A place where people are too scared to voice their opinions for fear of being attacked by people who differ from them. A place where everybody is brain washed into feeling exactly the same (or pretend that they are), because it’s the ‘right’ thing to do. It does more or less divide the world into two – ‘them’ and ‘us’, but the one half doesn’t dare say what they think and feel out loud – the silent half.

I refuse to believe that the majority of people on this earth feel the same. So obviously a big part of earth’s population doesn’t come right out and say what they believe in. And if they do, they are called names… I would love to hear someone’s opinion of how all that came about. I believe the press/media had a huge role in that, but the mechanics of how this subtle subjugation was implemented, is beyond me.

I figured some of that out by reactions to my blogs. The moment I write something just remotely controversial, and I mean remotely, my ‘likes’ drop like dead flies. (Not that I have thousands, even hundreds, of likes, but with small numbers it is even more obvious.) It is as if people go – ‘can’t touch that’. ‘Cannot be seen to like this.’ ‘Cannot comment on that.’ ‘Too dangerous, not even acknowledging that I saw that. ‘Let’s pretend I never saw that.’

I find it sad. I, for one, will never attack someone, verbally or otherwise, for disagreeing with me. I might argue with you, but I won’t get nasty. I respect people’s individuality, and their right to their own opinions and feelings, like I mentioned in my previous post. Also –

β€œMost people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
― Stephen R. Covey,Β The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

I have often experienced the above quote – it is important to really, really listen to what people say – one often assumes that you know what they think and feel. You don’t. Listen – you might be surprised at how much of what others think, is in agreement with what you think.

Anyone out there up for a dare? I dare you to reply to this. Give me an idea of why you think this is happening at the moment. Or do you even think it is happening? Maybe you think it is my imagination and I’m just stirring now? I promise, I am not an undercover anything.

Too heavy for a Thursday? Or any day? Mmmm… πŸ˜‰